About Divorce/Separation

Divorce & Separation Resources

Internet Resources
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My favorite articles:
Are You Really Ready for Divorce? The 8 Questions You Need to Ask
Parenting Plans following Separation/Divorce: Developmental Considerations
Overnights for Young Children
25 Prenuptual Questions

Articles, information, services and advertisements of divorce professionals:

Finding a mediator (mediators listed are paid advertisements):
Academy of Professional Family Mediators
Oregon Mediation Association
Washington Mediation Association
National Association for Conflict Resolution

Information and articles on financial, legal, psychological aspects of divorce:
The Divorce Portal - Comprehensive web links, resources, articles, etc.

Local Family Court Services: (Court info, court-connected mediation and parent ed. classes)
Multnomah County, OR
Clackamas County, OR
Washington County, OR
Clark County, WA

Family Law Information and Services:
Oregon Courts
Washington Courts
Low Income Legal Information (Oregon)
Low Income Legal Information (Washington)
Oregon State Bar - Information and referral
http://divorcelinks.com - Legal/custody information for any state

Child support and family law information:
Oregon Department of Justice (listed by county)
Washington State Department of Social/Health Services
On-line Oregon child support calculator

Resources for Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Trans Partners and Parents:
Human Rights Campaign Foundation - Resource for GLBT rights & activism (includes legal information)
PFLAG - Support, education, advocacy for parents, families, and friends of lesbians and gays
TransParentcy - Supporting rights and the bond between transgendered parents and their children
COLAGE - Supports children of GLBT parents

Other Community Resources, Family, Employment & Low Income:
Oregon Helps
Oregon Community Resource Directory

Divorce Support Groups:
Churches and Ministries

Domestic Violence Crisis and Support Services:

On-line Divorce Recovery Classes for Children and Parents:
Video + workbook for ages 5-9
Interactive online class for ages 9-16
Online Co-Parenting class

Book Referrals:
There are now loads of helpful books focusing on every nuance of divorce and separation. Following is a list of books in each category that I liked. For a more complete list of book resources, visit your local library, bookstore, or on-line store.

Adults: General Divorce
Between Love and Hate: A Guide to a Civilized Divorce, by Lois Gold
Untying The Knot, by Janine M. Bernard and Harold Hackney

Guidance through Divorce Decisions
The Divorce Decisions Workbook, by Margorie Louise Engel and Diana Delhi Gould
Mom's House, Dad's House: A Complete Guide for Parents Who Are Separated, Divorced or Remarried, by Isolina Ricci

Parenting After Divorce
New Beginning: Skills for Single Parents, by Don Dinkmeyer, Gary McKay, and Joyce McKay
Joint Custody with a Jerk, by Julie A. Ross and Judy Corcoran.
101 Ways to be a Long Distance Super-Dad...Or Mom, Too!, by George Newman.

Parenting: Helping Children Adjust to a Divorce
Helping Children Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way, by Gary Newman
Touchpoints (two volumes), by Barry Brazelton

For Children
Dinosaur's Divorce, by Lawrence Brown (Pre-school)
It's not Your Fault, Koko Bear, by Vicky Lansky (Early elementary)
Families are Forever! Kids Workbook for Sharing Feelings About Divorce, by Melissa Smith. (Later elementary)
The Kid's Guide To Divorce, by Brogan, Marden & Fawcett (Pre-teen)
Dear Mr. Henshaw, by Beverly Cleary (Pre-teen - fiction)
The Boys And Girls Book About Divorce, by R. Gardner. (Teenager)
Coping When Your Family Falls Apart, Dianna Brooher (Teenager)

Other Children's Books and resources at:
Just for Kids Children's Bookstore